ASSUMPTIONS:

-a thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof.

Someone once told me that when we assume we only make an ass of “you and me”. Man did that stick. Because, so true! Why? Why do we assume? Why do we allow our minds to give us anxiety without proof? According to the dictionary definition of assumptions; it’s taking something for certain without proof. So? Why? Read below and find out why we assume, and why we should stop. 

I assume a wholeee lot. Omg, so much. And it’s something I’ve been working on because assumptions only gives you headaches and creates doubts that eventually lead to arguments that shouldn't have happened. 

Examples of assumptions compare to possible realities: 

1. Situation: No text back 

   1. Assumption: they’re cheating, mad, found someone new to speak to 

   2. Reality: they’re sleeping, or eating, or just don't want to speak. 

2. Situation: Doesn’t want to hang out as much 

   1. Assumption: they’re hanging out with someone new, not interested

   2. Reality: they’re busy, something might be happening at home

3. Situation: Like someone’s picture on instagram/ or favorited a tweet

   1. Assumption: They want to fuck that person, they’re into someone that doesn’t look like me. 

   2. Reality: IT’S JUST A LIKE ON SOCIAL MEDIA. 

4. Situation: We aren’t having sex as much 

   1. Assumption: They’re having sex with someone else, they’re arent attracted to me 

   2. Reality: They’re just tired, perhaps they wanted to just bond with you. 

I’m sure we’ve all assumed something along the lines above. I have, many times! From assuming, and making an ass of myself I’ve learned to flat out, RELAX. Sometimes we really make up these crazy scenarios in our head that have no grounds for even starting and we’re only making ourselves look, feel and sound STOOPID! 

The most valuable part of a relationship to me is communication. Good communication leads to less assumptions. If your partner and you have good communication, things will not get to the point of assuming, but let’s be honest sometimes we're crazy and still assume.

Which brings me to the point of working on yourself! It’s important to be the best version of yourself for your own good but also to be your best version in a relationship. All these little steps will lead to a clearer, and open communication tunnel between you and your partner, which should equal less assuming. 

Assuming is stupid. It’s wrong. It only makes you crazy. Make your partner doubt and question your ability to deal with situations and your maturity. Though not fair, makes sense why someone would judge maturity based on how you deal with assumptions.

The one thing that has personally helped me in less assuming is very simple, trusting.

Trust is such a vital part of cutting assumptions short. Trust the person you are with until they give you viable reasons not too. Then at that point no more assuming is needed, you’ll know.

XOXO P$