He's her boyfriend, too.
We tend to believe that the idea of a relationship is a set one. That a relationship is just two people solemnly loving each other and being loyal to each other. For the record my take on what a relationship consist of is the traditional way. Two people loving each other, experiencing life hand and hand being faithful and loyal. A relationship is an agreement to want to be with that person ONLY. As of late I’ve had to question this definition I’ve set for myself. Not for personal reasons but because I’ve seen things that have challenged this.
The situation at Hand: One man with two girls that full blown love him and he loves both? Is it possible to love two people at the same time? Or do you just love yourself so much, that you don’t see the pain you cause these two individuals? I must say, a lot of questions come to my head.
My Theory: The whole situation is bullshit. The man loves neither. When you love someone you do not play with their emotions at a level so high like creating a “relationship” outside of this. I also believe both women are blind. They must be dealing with inner issues that make them believe this situation is okay. For some reason this man has alluded both of them that they are “it”.
The main problem in this situation is the power. The power this man holds over both these women. They can both be beautiful, smart, have a bright future but to me they’re just two lost females. Lost because they have given all their true self to a man that has stolen their present and potentially the future. He has toyed with them in ways they do not realize is hurting them.
The worst part is when these situations occur both women are aware of the dual relationship but closing their eyes seems to be the best option. Toxic love. Toxic energy. Toxic relationships. As a woman I understand the pain one endures when they feel as if they lost. I’ve learned from personal experiences that sometimes we should listen to the people around us because they see things from the outside. When in a situation like this we tend to only believe this toxic man. We tend to hate “the other girl”. The truth? We shouldn’t because believe it or not that girl is probably in the same hole as you. A hole created by a man you gave power to.
My advice to anyone who sees themselves in this situation is as follows. Listen to the ones around you. Listen to your friends. Most importantly listen to your heart, to the tears you cry when he’s away with “her”. To the way you feel when he posts her on his snap and you stay in the dark. Listen to your heart that is telling you what you do not want to hear. Most importantly VALUE YOURSELF. No man on earth deserves so much power that he makes you believe you are ok as a second option.
Never be a second option. You are Gold, Pure SOLID GOLD.