Emotionally unavailable
From personal experiences I recognize that we tend to love the ones who aren’t ready to be loved. As humans we can’t accept that perhaps someone just isn’t ready. We see it as we aren’t enough. We tend to look for the “what is wrong with me” “am I not good enough” “why can’t he/she love me”. Eventually we usually accept that it’s not us. But then we tell ourselves they will be, eventually.
We like to make up a story about how this person will eventually accept that you’re so awesome that they will come around for you. Over and over someone can tell us they aren’t looking for anything serious but we choose to stay. At this point is usually where you tell yourself it’s a temporary thing, they will come around. But the reality more times than usual is they do not. It’s important to listen to people the first time they say something.
“I’m not looking for anything serious” when someone says this, listen to them. If you know you are looking for something serious do not settle for a waiting game that usually won’t work in your favor. I know from a girl perspective we tend to believe we can heal a man, we can make them change their train of thoughts. The reality: you can not.
A man will only changes if he wants to. You could be the most amazing girl, emotionally stable, successful, great personality but if his heart and mind are not ready, he will never be either.
The reasons someone is emotionally unavailable are endless. From a young perspective I know some people just want to enjoy their youth, and plain and simple have fun. Someone could have had their heart recently broken. Maybe they have healed from a heartbreak but still they do not believe mentally and emotionally they are prepared.
Emotionally unavailable is as real as being single or taken. Someone has the option to say this and we should respect it. Perhaps a friendship can develop or simply end the conversations. Save yourself a heartbreak pending to happen. Protect your heart at all cost.
Sometimes the right person appears but the time is not right.